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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about service.
Not in a grand or performative way. But in the simple, human ways we show up for one another, at work, at home, and in our communities.
Because here’s what I’ve come to believe: Service doesn’t just impact the people we help. It changes us.
Service shifts our perspective.
When we’re caught up in our own challenges, deadlines, or stress, it’s easy to get stuck in our own world.
But the moment we step outside of ourselves: To help a teammate To support a friend To contribute to something bigger than us
Something shifts.
We gain perspective. We remember what truly matters. We reconnect with a sense of purpose that’s bigger than our to-do list.
Service deepens connection.
Some of the most meaningful moments in my life and my career haven’t come from achievement, they’ve come from contribution.
From being there for someone. From listening when it mattered most.
Service has a way of breaking down barriers. It reminds us that we’re not alone. That we’re connected.
And in a world where so many people feel isolated or overwhelmed, especially these days, this kind of connection is powerful and so needed.
Service shapes how we lead.
In my work with leaders and teams, I’ve seen that the most effective leaders don’t just focus on results, they focus on people.
They ask:
- How can I support my team?
- What do the people around me need right now?
- How can I make a positive difference today?
That’s service.
And it’s not about self-sacrifice or burnout. It’s about intention. It’s about care. It’s about recognizing that leadership is ultimately about impact.
Service doesn’t have to be big to matter.
We sometimes think service has to be something formal or significant. But in reality, it’s often the small things that matter most:
Checking in on someone Offering a genuine “thank you” Giving someone your full attention Helping without being asked
These moments might seem small, but they create trust. They change the culture of a team, a family, a community.
So as you move through your week, ask yourself:
📍 Where can I be of service today?
📍 Who around me could use a little support, encouragement, or attention?
📍 How might showing up for others shift not just them, but me?
Service isn’t just something we do. It’s a way of being.
And when we choose service, consistently, intentionally, we don’t just make a difference in the lives of others.
We become more connected. More grounded. More aligned with what matters.
That’s the real power of service.
We’re all in this together.
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My whole life has been, and continues to be, influenced by amazing females.
The older I get, the more I realize just how much the women in my life have shaped who I am, not only as a person, but as a leader.
I think about my late mom, who modeled strength, resilience, and passion in ways I probably didn’t fully appreciate until I became an adult. She raised us as a single mom, navigated so many challenges, and encouraged me to go for what I truly wanted in life.
I think about my big sister, Lori, who passed away from cancer in her mid-40s. She taught me so much about life and relationships. She was my first friend and helped me make sense of the world when I was young.
I think about my amazing wife, Michelle, who has been my partner, sounding board, and grounding force through all of life’s ups and downs. She believes in me, inspires me, and loves me and our family in such a beautiful way.
And of course, I think about our daughters, Samantha and Rosie, who continue to teach me every day about courage, authenticity, and what it means to truly listen and grow. Their honesty, curiosity, and insight have such a big influence on me and how I move through the world.
Along the way, I’ve also had the privilege of working with and learning from many incredible women, colleagues, mentors, clients, and leaders, whose wisdom, clarity, and emotional intelligence have deeply impacted my perspective.
When I reflect on the leadership lessons I’ve learned from the women in my life, a few qualities stand out.
Empathy. Collaboration. Inclusion. Kindness. Appreciation. And a deep understanding that relationships matter.
These qualities are sometimes underestimated in traditional leadership models. For a long time, leadership was often associated with control, certainty, confidence, and dominance.
But in my experience, the leaders who create the most trust, the strongest cultures, and the most meaningful impact lead differently.
They listen. They connect. They care.
They understand that leadership isn’t about having power over people, it’s about creating an environment where people can thrive together.
The women who have shaped my life embody these qualities in powerful ways.
They’ve shown me that strength and compassion are not opposites. That honesty and kindness can coexist.
That vulnerability isn’t weakness, it’s one of the greatest sources of connection and trust.
As we recognize Women’s History Month, I find myself reflecting not only on the remarkable women who have shaped history, but also on the ones who shape our lives every day.
If we could increase the representation of women in leadership, in business, government, and beyond, I truly believe the world would change for the better.
Not because women are perfect. None of us are.
But because the qualities so many women bring to leadership are exactly what our organizations and our world need more of right now.
I know there are a lot of good men out there, and I do my best to be one of them.
But I also know that the women in my life have helped me become a better leader, a better partner, a better father, and a better human being.
For that, I’m deeply grateful.
And I’m committed to continuing to listen, learn, and lead in ways that honor the lessons they’ve taught me.
We’re all in this together.
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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the difference between belonging and fitting in.
They sound similar, but in my experience they couldn’t be more different.
Fitting in is about adjusting who you are to be accepted.
Belonging is about being accepted because of who you are.
One requires performance. The other creates safety.
So many of us are taught to fit in.
Whether it was in school, sports, work, or even in our own families, we learned early on that there were certain ways we were “supposed” to be.
So we edited ourselves. We shaped our personalities to match the room, the group, or the culture.
We said what we thought others wanted to hear. We avoided saying what was true for us because it felt risky.
And maybe, for a time, that helped us get by.
But here’s the thing: Fitting in might help you survive, but only belonging helps you thrive.
Belonging doesn’t require you to shrink.
Belonging invites you to bring your full self. Your story. Your values. Your ideas. Your quirks. Your truth.
When people feel a true sense of belonging at work, they don’t have to waste energy managing impressions or hiding parts of themselves.
They feel safe. Seen. Valued.
And when that happens? Trust grows. Innovation expands. Engagement is enhanced.
People stop performing and start connecting.
Leaders set the tone.
I’ve seen this in countless teams over the years: It’s not perks or policies that create belonging, it’s culture. And culture is shaped by what leaders model, allow, and celebrate.
When leaders are willing to be real, not just polished. When they make space for voices that are different from their own. When they show people they matter, not just for what they do, but for who they are.
That’s when belonging takes root.
A few questions to reflect on:
📍 Where in my life or leadership have I been trying to fit in, instead of showing up fully?
📍 What would need to shift for people on my team to feel a deeper sense of belonging?
📍 Am I creating a culture where people feel safe to be real?
Belonging is a powerful force and a fundamental human need. And it starts when we stop asking people to change in order to be accepted, and start celebrating who they already are.
Let’s choose belonging over conformity. Let’s lead in a way that invites people to bring their whole selves. Let’s build teams where people know they don’t have to earn their place, they already have it.
We’re all in this together.
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The start of a new year brings a lot of energy.
New goals. Big plans. Fresh commitments.
Everywhere we look, there’s messaging about change…how to be better, faster, more productive, more successful.
And while growth and improvement are important, I think we sometimes forget something really simple, and really important:
You don’t have to completely reinvent yourself to begin again.
Fresh starts don’t require a brand-new you.
There’s nothing wrong with setting goals or embracing change. I do it too.
But I’ve seen how easy it is, especially at this time of the year, to fall into the trap of thinking we’re somehow not enough as we are.
That everything needs to be fixed. That we have to hustle, prove, or transform in order to be worthy of a great year.
But the truth is, you can start fresh without abandoning yourself. You can grow without erasing who you’ve been.
Honor the version of you that got you here.
Before you try to become someone “better,” take a moment to acknowledge who you already are.
What you’ve learned. What you’ve navigated through. What you’ve shown up for, especially on the hard days.
You don’t need a total reset.
You might just need a gentle return to the things that matter most:
- Your values
- Your relationships
- Your wellbeing
- Your presence
Growth that’s rooted in self-judgment doesn’t last.
In leadership, and in life, don’t ditch what makes you real.
I see this a lot with leaders: the pressure to become someone more polished, more impressive, more “on.”
But some of the best leaders I know don’t lead through reinvention.
They lead through presence. Through humility. Through trust in themselves and others.
The work isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about becoming more of who you already are, on purpose.
So as we roll through this start of this new year, ask yourself:
– What do I want to carry forward, not fix, but build on?
– What parts of me feel most aligned, most alive?
– What would it look like to start fresh from a place of self-trust, not self-criticism?
You don’t need a dramatic reinvention to make this year meaningful.
You just need to come back to yourself, honestly, kindly, and consistently.
The version of you that got here is still worthy of joy, growth, and success. Let’s start from there.
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December can feel like a blur.
The pressure to wrap things up, meet deadlines, hit goals, and prep for the year ahead can create a frantic pace, at work and in life.
We race to the finish line, already thinking about January before we’ve had a chance to fully close out the year we’re still in.
But here’s something I’ve learned, through years of working with leaders and teams (and in my own life):
How we end things matters. And yet, most of us don’t end well, we just move on.
Completion isn’t a luxury. It’s part of the process.
We often skip completion because we’re too busy. Or we don’t think it’s necessary. But when we don’t make space to reflect, celebrate, and acknowledge what’s happened, we miss an opportunity for meaning, learning, and momentum.
Just like in a conversation, in a season, or in a relationship… endings shape how we feel going forward.
The same is true for teams. When we take the time to pause, recognize effort, and reflect on the journey, we reinforce trust. We deepen connection. And we create a sense of shared ownership.
Celebration isn’t fluff, it’s fuel.
In high-performing environments, people often gloss over wins and even learnings, and simply move quickly to “what’s next.”
But when we do that, we rob ourselves and our teams of something powerful.
Taking time to say:
- “Remember when we didn’t think we could pull that off?”
- “Look how far we’ve come since January.”
- “Thank you for showing up, especially during the hard moments.”
…those words matter. They energize. They remind people that what they did counts. That they, themselves, are important.
So before you sprint into 2026, ask yourself:
📍 What needs to be acknowledged…successes, struggles, growth?
📍 Who do I need to thank, celebrate, or encourage?
📍 How can I help my team (and myself) complete the year with meaning, not just metrics?
Here’s what you can do:
🔹 Schedule a “completion conversation.”
With your team, your partner, or yourself, carve out time to reflect on the year. What worked? What didn’t? What are you proud of?
🔹 Be specific with both recognition and appreciation.
Generic “great job” messages land flat. Call out real effort, resilience, and growth. People remember details.
🔹 Give people space to breathe.
If possible, lighten the pressure. Let the end of the year be a moment of renewal, not just one more sprint.
You don’t need to throw a party (although you can). You just need to be intentional. Present. Grateful.
When we end well, we carry less baggage into the new year. We start from a place of reflection, not reactivity. And that changes everything.
Let’s slow down enough to honor how far we’ve come, together.
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