There are a lot of things we can and can’t change in our lives. We all go through challenges that bring about change, and many of us struggle with these types of changes. We fear that we won’t be able to overcome certain challenging situations. But the thing about change is that it’s a slow … Read more
Do you think you’re on the right track? Asking ourselves this question in itself can be a problem. The issue isn’t whether or not we’re on the ‘right’ track; it’s that we think there’s a ‘right’ track to begin with. All too often I find myself striving for this insatiable “right track,” as if there’s … Read more
How do you forgive yourself, especially when you feel shame and regret about things you have done in the past? Dealing with shame and regret isn’t easy. And forgiving yourself can be extremely difficult when you live in constant guilt and regret. Many of us carry hard, hurtful emotions that build with us as time … Read more
I’ve been reflecting on change quite a bit recently. This year has been full of changes for me and my family. The two most significant and emotional changes have been the loss of my sister Lori back in January and the purchase of our new house a few months ago. While these two experiences are … Read more
My counselor Eleanor recently said to me, “Mike, if you’re trying to prove something, it means you don’t actually believe it yet.” Her words hit me right between the eyes, as they often do. She was right and as I reflect on certain aspects of my life, I can see that where I’m overly attached … Read more
In a recent session with my counselor Eleanor, she said something simple, but profound to me; “Nothing changes until you do.” She went on to say, “Mike, you keep trying to control and manipulate the situations, relationships, and outcomes in your life – thinking that if they changed in the way you want them to, … Read more
How do you feel about change? If you’re anything like me, you probably have mixed feelings about it. While it often depends on our perception of the type of change – big or small, good or bad, needed or unnecessary, easy or hard, etc. – most of us seek and fear change simultaneously. I’ve recently … Read more
In a recent session I had with my new counselor Eleanor, she said to me, “Mike, it sounds like embracing powerlessness is something that would benefit you right now.” When she said this, a chill went down my spine and my body tightened up. “What do you mean, ’embrace powerlessness’?’” I asked. “Why would I … Read more
We recently went into escrow on our house, but don’t yet have a new house to move into. As excited as we are about our move (just across the San Francisco Bay from Concord to Marin County), it feels pretty scary to not yet know exactly where we’ll be living next month. With this big … Read more
Fear is something that we all experience throughout our lives, especially on our journey toward deeper authenticity. Being who we really are, expressing ourselves honestly, being bold, and going for what we want in life can cause a great deal of fear in us. I get scared all the time. When I was younger I … Read more
