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Let Go of Worry

February 2, 2011 5 Comments

How often do you catch yourself worrying?

When I was a kid my mom used to say to me, “95% of what you worry about never happens.” I think she recognized that I was the “worrying type” and was trying to help ease my mind. Although this rarely worked, I appreciated her sentiment and know now that she was right.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been prone to worrying. I continue to work on this, let it go, forgive myself for it, and choose different ways of being in the face of my fear. And, I still catch myself worrying more than I’d like – about the future, about my body, about how things will turn out, about what people think about me, about money, about the well-being of my loved ones, about the state of the world, and much more.

However, no matter how much we worry, it never really helps. And, as we look deeper at what worrying actually is – a set-up for failure, a negative attractor, and a denial or avoidance of feeling our true feelings – we see that it can have a damaging impact on our lives, our work, and our relationships. When we worry, we’re simply preparing to be upset or angry – assuming something won’t work out in the future.

Worry not only creates stress, it has an impact (usually negative) on what we create and manifest, and on our experience of life in general. Worry is a superficial emotion. It’s clearly something that many of us are all familiar with, can share with others in a way that will garner sympathy, empathy, or even pity, and is easy for us to go through daily life experiencing. However, underneath our worry are usually deeper emotions like shame, fear, guilt, hurt, or anger; many of which are more difficult for us to feel and express.

If we’re able to tell the truth and face our deeper feelings, we won’t have to waste our time and energy worrying.  We can then deal with the root of the issue, not the superficial impact of it (which is what worry usually is).

There’s nothing wrong with feeling scared, angry, hurt, and even “worried,” in and of itself. These emotions, like love, gratitude, excitement, joy, and others are very important to our human experience. Emotions that are felt deeply and expressed appropriately give us power (regardless of what they are). Emotions that are not felt deeply, that are denied or avoided, and are not effectively expressed, can be damaging to us and those around us.

Worry is always a sign that there are some deeper feelings or issues for us to address. It’s often a good reminder for us to get more real, take better care of ourselves, and pay attention.

Below is a list of some things you can do when you get worried.  These simple ideas can help you move through your worry in a positive way:

  • When you notice yourself worrying; stop, check in with yourself, and take a few slow deep breaths (all the way down to your belly)
  • Ask yourself, what’s underneath my worry? (i.e. why am I really worried and what am I really feeling?)
  • Face, feel, and express these underlying emotions – get support from others in this process if you need it.
  • Once you have felt and expressed these emotions, choose how you want to feel and what you want to create, instead of playing the role of the victim.
  • Appreciate yourself for the courage it takes to be honest and to deal with the challenging situations or emotions you’re experiencing.
  • Focus on the good stuff in your life (i.e. be grateful for what you have, who you are, and what you’re going through)
  • Be of service to others – generously put your attention on those around you who can benefit from your help.  It will be a great gift to them and to you. Service can allow you to shift your attention from your worry to what you have to give, which is a true win-win for everyone involved.

What can you do today to let go of anything you’re currently worrying about?  How can you let go of worry in an on-going way in your life?  Share your thoughts, ideas, insights, actions, and more on my blog below.

Related posts:

  1. Love Your “Flaws”
  2. Worry Never Works
  3. Letting Go of Worry
  4. Stop Worrying

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: Appreciation, authenticity, emotion, feeling, gratitude, honesty, Mike Robbins, motivation, stress, support, vulnerability, worry

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  1. Elizabeth says

    February 2, 2011 at 12:47 pm

    Lately I have been worrying so much. My boyfriend recently broke up with me and we still talk all the time. I am confident we will be together in the future right now though its so difficult because I have a lot of issues I have to work on with myself before we can be a couple again. I am just so scared, and worry so much that I won’t be able to overcome my own obstacles. This man is the love of my life, I know it and he knows it. I am so afraid that I won’t be able to control my emotions and stop worrying though so much. I don’t really know how to just let things go. And relax like I used to be able to do.

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  2. Anita Retzlaff says

    February 2, 2011 at 1:03 pm

    Mike, your comments and response to worry
    are all good but I am disappointed you do
    not mention prayer or taking your concerns
    to God. Prayer should be number 1.

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  3. arlette says

    February 5, 2011 at 11:10 am

    Hello Mike ! I received your newsletter about worry just as I was leaving for the hospital where my husband was about to have a stent procedure… so talk about WORRY – but just receiving it gave me the sense of a “signal” that I was receiving a message to NOT worry — that the synergy in itself was telling me “someone is taking care” …
    I did not have the time to read it fully but connected to your suggesting to look under the worry for the other unrecognized emotions and certainly connected to the “guilt factor!…. my predicament in this life !!!
    for me letting go of worry is primarily to TRUST, that I don’t have to do anything just allow life to unravel and stop thinking that I HAVE to do something or should be able to control the issue. and I so agree with your Mom, Mike — our imagination is so fertile and always towards the negative — Why not put our strength towards imagining the BEST RESULT ??? do i succeed ??? not always but remembering is the first step !
    I enjou the newsletter and your little girls are darling !!!
    arlette

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  4. Angela C. says

    February 8, 2011 at 4:59 pm

    Those are some great strategies. I recently did a blog series on anxiety and worry as well and am finding more and more that a lot of people struggle with this.

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