Samantha – looking for what she wants next
As todlers and young children, most of us are very comfortable (for better or worse) asking for what we want. Admittedly, some of the things we ask for and want we cannot have for a myriad of reasons. However, as we get older and become more “reasonable,” we make decisions about what we can and can’t ask for in life – from our parents, our friends, our co-workers, and people in general. By the time most of us are adults, many of us have a very hard time asking for what we want at all.
The problem is that the answer is always “NO” if we don’t ask. In other words, it’s very difficult to get what we want in life if we are too scared or uncomfortable to ask for it. Asking for what we want is not about being demanding, pushy, or selfish. It’s about making grown-up requests and taking responsibility for our lives and our desires.
Imagine if you could go through your life on a daily basis and not edit yourself as it relates to your requests. What if you felt comfortable to ask for exactly what you wanted all the time, and at the same time were not attached to the outcome. If each of us felt more comfortable and free with our requests and we actually made genuine requests of people (meaning that the other person could say “yes,” “no,” or make a “counter offer” without fear of repercussions) the world would be a very different place for us and those around us.
I know it can be scary and we can sometimes feel vulnerable putting ourselves out there, asking for what we want, and wondering if we are going to get turned down, hurt, or rejected. However, when we don’t ask for what we want, we set ourselves up for failure and disappointment. My challenge to you today is to make some bold requests – even if you feel uncomfortable. If you are willing to step through your fear, you may actually get exactly what you want – just like Samantha with the blue balloon.