My friend Holly Dowling joins the show today. She’s a thought leader and a fantastic inspirational keynote speaker. Holly is passionate about creating inclusive environments within companies so that teams can thrive and organizations can retain talented people. She and I talk in-depth about how to create a culture where everyone feels a true sense of respect and belonging.
[4:25] What’s new in the world of inclusive leadership?
[6:35] Why are more men showing up to inclusion talks than women? Holly believes they’re scared. They want more inclusion, but they don’t know how to start the conversation.
[10:50] Unfortunately, by having women-only empowerment groups, these women are being siloed from a bigger purpose. The reality is, we need men included in on these conversations so that a healthy dialogue can be developed.
[15:15] Men want to be included in the conversation, they just don’t know how. There are a lot of tools out there for women, but when it comes to men wanting to be more inclusive, they get stuck with the ‘how.’ There’s a different landscape happening now.
[22:20] We need to share our stories! So often, people feel so alone and they can feel like the problem they’re facing is only happening to them, but by hearing about other people’s challenges and struggles, it gives those people a voice and a light.
[28:20] With such a focus on women’s leadership and empowerment, where does that leave our young boys? Holly is currently raising three young boys herself and she sees first hand that there’s a lack of resources for them in this new environment. We are facing not only generational differences but cultural differences too.
[32:45] Women want men to read their minds, but that’s impossible. It’s important that expectations are set before a conversation begins so that no one gets upset (from both parties). Do you want him/her to listen, problem-solve, or advise when you’re about to start a conversation? Let your partner know!
[41:05] We have to stop putting labels on people’s foreheads, especially if we disagree with them. Remember, at the end of the day, everyone has a story and when you understand their story, you will have more compassion for one another despite the differences.
[52:20] Social media can be so misleading. It’s important to get grounded and get authentic so that we don’t mislead the very people who look up to us and admire us. There’s nothing wrong with sharing your mistakes or faults on social media and being real with some of life’s challenges.
“If you want to create a culture of trust and one that attracts and retains great talent, you’ve got to have an inclusive environment.” @HollyDDowlingClick to tweet
“Two things that are essential to inclusion are empathy and compassion.” @HollyDDowlingClick to tweet