On today’s show, Anese Cavanaugh joins me for the second time. She’s an author and speaker, who shares her knowledge around the country about leadership, culture, being positively contagious, nurturing our relationships and creating impact. Anese and I chatted about some of the concepts included in her latest book Contagious You: Unlock Your Power to Influence, Lead, and Create the Impact You Want during our conversation. We talked about intentional energetic presence (IEP), how to prevent burnout, and how to detect workaholism. Anese also shares a useful tool for leaders called DENT.
[4:39] Anese talks about what prompted her to write her new book called Contagious You.
[6:07] Anese shares the meaning of Intentional Energetic Presence.
[7:18] Mike shares his own personal example and how having a high level of energy can sometimes get in the way of being fully intentional, present, and aware.
[9:25] The concept of meeting the group where it is, without compromising your energy.
[13:30] Having a good energetic presence doesn’t mean to be bouncing off the walls, it is the quality of this presence that matters and how it serves the rest of the people in the room.
[15:35] There is a difference between men and women in a group, where men tend to interrupt and take more space while women are often more careful.
[17:43] The cultural background influences the way we communicate and what we considered acceptable and not on our closest relationships.
[21:05] When we feel comfortable we don’t have to worry so much about being present.
[23:55] Anese shares different pieces of burnout:
- Connection with the pause and being present.
- Stay connected to the purpose (Why are you doing what you are doing?).
- Connect with people.
- Connection to pain, pleasure, and play.
[33:55] Sitting with your pain and struggling helps to process the feeling faster and learn from it more effectively.
[34:12] These are questions you should ask yourself if you are wondering if you are just being passionate about work or if you have become a workaholic:
- How are you feeling?
- Is it having a negative impact on my family and relationships? If it is, can I stop it?
- What do I need?
[37:30] In order to avoid burnout it is important to be aware of the relationship we have with our work and to pay attention to how our purpose is growing along with ourselves.
[39:10] Anese shares the concept of leadership depression and how it is related to isolation and the feeling that regardless of how much is done, it is not enough.
[45:34] A way to have more energy to keep on contributing tomorrow is by practicing the DENT: Do what you can, Engage with heart and honest intent, do the best you can Now, in this moment, and Trust that it is enough.
[47:12] It is essential for us to take care of ourselves so we can be super clear in our intentions, we can manage and be responsible for our energy, and be present.
The Leader You Will Be, by Anese Cavanaugh
“Suffering and struggling are optional, pain is absolutely inevitable.” — @AneseCavanaughClick to tweet